Do you ever find yourself wondering why you’re doing what you’re doing? 

Perhaps you suddenly realise that you’re doing it because it’s what you think is expected of you; or it’s what’s ‘normal’; or you want to please someone. Maybe, when you think about it, you notice that you’re doing it because you feel you have to, or you should – and you think that if you don’t, you’ll be disliked, excluded, or perhaps even hurt.

What do you really want to do? Who do you really want to be?

Conscious choices, deliberate decisions, intentional actions are things we consent to.

Consent is something you can practice, and it can transform lives.

Consent involves asking questions, and noticing when we’re just following the regular path that’s been laid out for us.

Most of us aren’t making full use of our consent.  And often that’s because we’ve learned not to. We are influenced by systems and hierarchies, assigned roles we did not choose. Some of these lead us into competition, conflict, inequity, harm and injustice.

Consent can free us from assumptions, expectations and rules (written and unwritten) that limit us.  With consent we decide what we’re willing to do for each other, our selves, and the wider world we are shaping.  We can give and ask for what we really want, or don’t want. 

Applying consent, we break out of the mainstream to choose our own unique routes towards connection, belonging and common ground.